The Courage to Be Hated

All problems in life stem from interpersonal relationships
October 1, 2021
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The Courage to Be Hated
Ichiro Kishimi
Influential
2014-11-17
9788996991342

Review

The ideas of Alfred Adler are explained easily and clearly in the format of a dialogue between a philosopher and a young man.
It directly refutes Freud's etiology, which claims that the past trauma determines the present, and presents a teleological perspective that everything is chosen by oneself for the current purpose.

It was a book that made me feel a bit of resistance, wondering if it thinks too lightly of trauma.
The shocking claim that the reason we cannot change is not because we cannot, but because we have resolved not to change, feels like a violent claim that you just haven't tried even though you could overcome it.

I empathize with the idea that all problems stem from interpersonal relationships, and this will be inevitable for our survival.
Every living thing would find it advantageous to belong to a society for survival, and being culled from such a society is a threat to survival, so it's normal to feel stress.

Although it feels like a book that whips you too much saying your effort is insufficient, it was still a book that allowed me to take interest in Adlerian psychology.
Jooojub
System S/W engineer
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